There are a growing number of phone-lines and websites offering the services of ‘genuine psychics.’ While many of these sites employ their own quality control measures, psychic gifts are such a nebulous area that no one can ever truly be sure that they are working with the real McCoy. When it comes to trying to source a legitimate medium, there are a few tips you can follow to help you decide whether or not that person is genuine.
The Real Deal
Perhaps the most important thing to remember is that a genuine medium won’t require a dossier on your personal history in order to connect with someone on your behalf. In many ways, the less information they ask of you, the greater the likelihood is that they are the real deal. A genuine medium will not need to know things such as your date of birth, the names of people you are trying to contact, or places that are relevant to you or the deceased.
In fact, they don’t even have to know your name. A true medium will be fed all the information they need from the spirits of the deceased. A good medium knows that they are fallible. There is no such thing as 100% accuracy and even the best or most famous mediums concede this point. If, during a reading, you tell your medium that the information they are giving you is entirely wrong or unfounded, a good medium will apologise and try to re-establish a connection with the right person. These people are aware that readings can be polluted by other energies and spirits and are flexible in their approach and are entirely open to being told that they are wrong.
A common misconception is that if you feel you are making a good and instant connection with a medium, then they must be genuine. However, the phonies and charlatans are skilled confidence tricksters, using their skills to create an artificial bond between you that is the combination of body language and well-chosen phrases. A genuine medium may well establish a connection with you, but this will be proven through the session you undertake together. You may find them distant and peculiar or friendly and open, but they will prove their mettle in the quality of the séance or reading that you are given.
Spotting a Fake Medium
In many ways, it is easier to explain what makes a fake medium, rather than a real one. There are a number of sceptic-run sites that give clues as to the phrases and tricks used by fake mediums. Some of the more common ones include:
● The medium makes a generic statement about an older mother or father figure. At this point, they will be hoping you will ‘join the dots’ for them by adding the specifics of the matter into conversation.
● Rather than supplying you with a name of the person they are communicating with, a fake psychic may give you an initial and hope that you will supply the rest of the name for them. Alternatively, they may give you a list of names, all beginning with the same later, again in the hope that you will pick one and make it pertinent. This is commonly known as ‘baiting the hook’.
● A fake medium may ask you to elaborate on things that are allegedly messages from the spirit world. Questions such as “she’s mentioning a car…what does she mean when she talks about a car?” are, once again, designed for you to provide a foothold for them to gain some leverage in the conversation.
● When information is wrong, a fake will tell you that it is right and that you need to take some time to go and think about it.
● There are more questions made than statements. As a general rule of thumb, if you find that you are having to give more than a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ in response to questions, then you can be fairly sure that the medium is fishing for clues and hoping that you’ll fill in the gaps for them.
Skilled cold readers are able to make very accurate assumptions about people based on the information they communicate through their clothes, body language, the way they speak and countless other ‘tells.’ A fraudster can make educated guesses in relation to your age, your hairstyle and whether or not your posture is correct. These are the con men with whom you might feel an immediate and uncanny connection, but this is because fake mediums who rely on their cold reading skills know how to gain someone’s trust within minutes or even seconds of meeting them. Unfortunately, because they are so convincing, these are often the hardest to spot as fraudsters.
The real test of a medium’s authenticity is in the séance or reading itself. A genuine medium will not need to make a grand show of such an event. They may use candles and ambient lighting to create the right atmosphere and even ask for objects associated with the deceased, but that’s as far as it should go. There will be no rolling of eyes and speaking in tongues! A true medium knows that a séance is an extremely personal thing and wouldn’t insult a client with any show of theatrics. Instead, they will focus on making a strong and profound connection with both you and the person they are trying to contact, which may even require extended periods of silence.
In addition, a genuine medium will not deliver bad news or malevolent messages from the spirit world. The messages they deliver are the words of comfort that the deceased perhaps didn’t get the opportunity to impart or pass on fond memories, to establish their identity. Warnings and portents of doom are the sure sign of a fraud, who may then offer further ‘services’ to rectify the situation.
There are fakes and double-dealers in all walks of life. When it comes to mediums, what makes trickery so underhand is that the people who seek their services are often at a low spiritual ebb or in need of some succour from those they love and miss. Keep your eyes open and your wits about you and remember that if it doesn’t ‘feel’ right, trust your instincts and look elsewhere.