People have longed to communicate with deceased friends and relatives throughout history. Mediums were employed by the Ancient Egyptians to facilitate communication between the spiritual and physical realms and, for the Victorians, the use of mediums took the public by storm. Even today, there are plenty of mediums on stage and screen that use their gifts to apparently put the living in touch with the dead. However, is it really possible to communicate with someone who has died?
Psychics Versus Scientists
Ask any medium and you’ll get a yes. Ask any scientist and you’ll get a no. While spirituality and science have discovered some common ground in a variety of psychic phenomena, this is one subject on which neither will compromise their standpoint, so the choice is ultimately up to you. However, it might be that the explanation as to whether you can talk to the dead lies in a different ‘ology’ altogether; perhaps it is worth investigating the psychology of mediumship.
It is often said that the dead are not truly dead, as long as we remember them. The people we mourn most are those we have shared strong, living bonds with and a part of that bond is the psychic exchange between two people. As we get to know someone, our subconscious minds tune into the wavelengths of that person. This is often evident in the way that we seem to ‘know’ what that person is thinking, can finish their sentences for them and may even know that they are calling, before we answer the phone.
The Role Of The Subconscious
The subconscious mind is much like a two-way radio, in operation 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It broadcasts our deeper feelings and receives the psychic transmissions from those we are closest to. Sometimes, this can happen as soon as we meet someone; within minutes you get the sense that that person is going to be a special friend, present throughout your life. More commonly, we get to know someone over a period of time, making new discoveries as the friendship progresses, until they feel as much a part of our families as siblings or parents.
In the case of family members that bond is created by default. Siblings spend a lot of time together, seeing each other at their highest and lowest points. Similarly, with parents, we are exposed to them on a daily basis until such time that we perceive we want to carve out our own identities. However, once that period has passed, we tend to come back to our roots and forge new relationships with our mothers and fathers on more equal terms.
The Psychic Database
While the subconscious broadcasts and transmits, it also builds up an unconscious database of information about the people we feel we know best. In many ways, this is like a psychic identikit photograph, only it transcends mere physicality and is representative of what we know about them mentally, emotionally and spiritually. To all intents and purposes, we have an entirely accurate facsimile of their essence, stored away in our heads.
After someone has died, it’s not unusual for those left behind to seek comfort in signs and portents. It might be that you hear their favourite song playing in particular surroundings or that you find yourself thinking of them when you see a particular animal. These signs can be almost anything, from the smell of perfume to a particular building. Yet they all have one thing in common; their association with the dead person. These sign often bring feelings of comfort or peace, as though the deceased is somehow letting you know that they are watching over you.
In storing psychic information about someone in our subconsciouses, it is as though we are storing a part of them in there. When we see or experience something that reminds us of them, we are flooded with the feelings that their friendship carries for us. These feelings are particularly intense at a time when the realisation dawns that we are never going to see them again. In many ways, the subconscious is releasing that stored information as an emotional experience, seeking to ease the feelings of grief and absence that we are going through.
The Role Of Mediums
For those who employ mediums to make contact with the dead, the assumption is that they will create a channel from this world to the next, through which the living and the deceased can communicate. However, it is entirely possible that the medium is not actually making a connection of this sort. Instead, they are using their intuitive abilities to eke out the information you have stored about your friend or relative, in your psychic database.
Because that information is so intimate and detailed, once it is fully released, it can almost take on the sensation that there is communication taking place. In reality, however, the medium is using his powers of intuition to tap into that psychic facsimile and the querent is able to formulate communication, based on what they know about the deceased.
While this might sound like an illusion, it’s more like having a hologram packed full of all the possible information there is to know about that person; in your mind’s eye it is entirely possible to create a fully rounded psychic appreciation of someone who is living or dead. When feelings of grief heighten those sensations and we employ the talents of a medium, it is as though the psychic data we have stored takes on a life of its own, creating sentences and sentiments that are entirely within the realms of credibility, because it is based on what we know about them.
In many ways, the saying about the dead not being truly dead as long as we remember them is more important than we think. By retaining the psychic imprint of a friend or relative, we are holding onto a part of them that we can access under the watchful eye of a medium or during those times when we subconsciously register that we are missing them.